Teach your kids with care, respect, and in private
Teaching kids right from wrong is key to helping them grow up to be kind, fair, and happy. But the way and place you teach them can really change how they feel about themselves. The goal is to fix bad actions, build good traits, and keep their pride intact.
- Teach with care, not shame
Kids, like all of us, need the right kind of help to grow. This help should come from a place of love and care. When kids mess up, which they will, it’s up to the adults to help them see their mistakes calmly, not with anger.
It’s best to talk to your kid at home, just the two of you. This makes them feel safe and not embarrassed. It also makes the trust between you and your kid stronger.
Parenting tip: Kids learn better when they feel safe. Use teaching moments, not punishment. - Don’t shame or yell in public
Yelling or shaming a kid in front of others, like at school or a store, can hurt them a lot. If a kid is scolded where others can see, they might feel:
• Ashamed and small
• Not loved or needed
• Low in the eyes of others
This can make them feel bad about themselves, stop them from speaking up, or make them upset with their parents.
Kids can end up feeling left out or bullied by others if adults treat them badly in public. This hurts their ability to make friends and be happy.
Warning: A moment of public shame can hurt a kid for a long time. - Help your kid feel sure, not scared
Teaching works best when it’s part of a loving and respectful relationship. When kids feel valued and understood, they listen more and become caring people. The aim is not to crush their spirit but to guide it.
Take time to:
• Talk with your kid calmly when they do something wrong.
• Show them why what they did was not okay.
• Give consequences that teach, not just punish.
• Remind them they are loved, even when they mess up.
Empowering note: Respect your child today, and they will respect themselves and others for life. How you act towards them will be how they act in public, and reflect back on you.
Conclusion
Teaching your kids is a big part of being a parent, and how you do it shapes who they become. Always choose to teach in private, with kindness and respect. Public shame is not loving; it hurts.
When kids are raised with respect and care, they are more likely to be happy and successful in life. Remember, all kids deserve the same respect we want for ourselves.
Final thought: Teach with love, not humiliation. Teach with kindness, not fear.